Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Olympic Dreams

Our very own little Russian girl from the photo on our Russia adoption page, Yana, met with US Olympic coaches Bela and Marta Karolyi. Yana is a team gymnast in Illinois. With her parents, she visited the Karolyi Camp in New Waverly Texas during a vacation this summer. Bela and Marta were very nice and friendly and as you can see by the pictures Yana also enjoyed the meeting. She eagerly showed off her muscles to Bela and he said …wow you are strong. Who knows, maybe one day Yana will be in the Olympics herself! This Olympics there is one special girl in Illinois watching gymnastics with a big smile on her face.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Webinar: Adopting From Ethiopia

Join us for a Webinar on August 13 Are you considering adopting from Ethiopia? If so, this webinar is for you! We will discuss:
  • The adoption process
  • Children available
  • Timeframes
  • Travel
Please join us for this hour long discussion on Adopting from Ethiopia. Please email specific questions about Adoption from Ethiopia to info@specialadoption.com . We will answer these questions during the webinar.
Title: Adopting from Ethiopia
Date: Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Time: 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM CDT
Reserve your Webinar seat now at: https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/364693202

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Gotcha Day July 1st….Five Years and Counting! A Few Words of Wisdom from One Parent to Another.

Yana age 3 Our first meeting 2003
Adoption is a life changing event. Everyone is effected; parents, siblings, relatives, friends, teachers and of course the adopted child. Whether you are waiting for your child to become part of the family or he/she has been your son/daughter for several years, there are always things to learn. Our daughter, Yana, has been ours for 5 years now. Her gotcha day is July 1! Going through every step of the adoption journey has presented its own set of joys and concerns. I believe being a parent is something that we earn. It is a gift that is given to us by God whether we give birth or adopt. After talking with hundreds of adoptive parents and potential adoptive parents I have noted several commonalities that we all share. These can best be compiled into four stages. First is the research stage. We decide if this is the right choice for us and what age, country and agency best suits us. This also includes becoming experts on child psychology, compiling documents, financing and connecting with others in the same position. As an adoption consultant I try to help parents make the best choice for their particular family. Everyone always asks me…”Am I asking too many questions?”…the answer is NO. You are asking the right amount of questions for you to make this very important decision. Also I always hear…” I am so nervous and scared, is this normal?”….the answer is YES. Who wouldn’t be nervous in making a life changing choice? In fact it would be abnormal if you weren’t at least a little nervous. One of the positive aspects of this stage is that you are very busy and feel a sense of control while you are putting all this information and your dossier together. The waiting stage is next. After all paperwork is turned in we wait and wait and wait. At the time, this seems so endless. Our heart’s desire is out there in another country and the heart cannot rest until its desire is met. But, this time can best be used by educating ourselves on what is to come. Adoptive children all experience some type of attachment issues to one degree or another. There are many wonderful books to pour over during this time that will give you the tools you need when your child comes home. You can visit http://astore.amazon.com/specialneedsa-20/102-0608371-1898539 to purchase these. It has been said that “the waiting is the hardest part” (was it Tom Petty who sang that?:)) but it can be turned into a time of reflection and education. Also, read up on your child’s birth country. This will help you feel more connected to your child and you will expand your own world by learning about another. Practice the language of your chosen country. You will need it on your trip and after your child comes home. Feed your brain while your heart is restless. The next stage is the finally the fulfillment of our heart’s desire…our child arrives into our family. During this, parents experience the greatest of joys but also a time of struggle. Your new child is also going through similar emotions. His/her whole life has changed in a very short time. Now the time you took preparing during the waiting stage will be your best friend. When trials arise you can refer back to all the information you have learned and apply it. There is no substitute for experience, so remember to connect with other parents through arkfamilies or other adoptive family groups for support. There is strength in numbers and you can learn from someone else’s experience and help others from what you have learned. The last stage continues for the rest of our lives. It is the growing stage or the business of being a family. You will experience peaks and valleys but always moving forward. Just when you think you have it figured out, life sends you a curve ball. It’s time to change course but always moving in a positive direction. The time you spent waiting will be a distant memory and one you may actually remember with fondness and joy of the anticipation of the fulfillment of a dream. Time will move on, children will grow and mature. Now you have become an expert, of sorts, on adoption and can use your knowledge to help others. There is a wonderful site to address many of your needs during every stage of the process. It is http://adoptiondoctors.com/ . I highly encourage you to visit here no matter where you are in your adoption journey you will find valuable information. Blessings to you all!
Yana age 9 2008

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Azerbaijan

Adoption ARK is very excited to announce our new adoption program in Azerbaijan. Adoption from Azerbaijan can be completed in 2 short trips. Children are available from age 6 months to 16 years of age. Please contact Adoption ARK for more information on adoption from Azerbaijan or visit the Azerbaijan Page on the Adoption ARK website.

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Hungary Adoption Program

Hungary adoption program! Less money, physiologist evaluation for children, foster care system (means fewer issues of ADD), Eastern Europe travel to Budapest, adoption from a friendly country and many more great benefits if you consider adopting from Hungary! Contact us for more information.

Monday, June 9, 2008

My trip to Ethiopia

As I boarded the plane in Washington D.C. and headed to Addis Ababa, I wondered if going to a country that symbolizes poverty and hunger is a smart decision. Upon arriving, I knew that this country was not far from my expectations. As we drove through the city I saw houses that looked like boxes made out of rusted metal. I paid very close attention to the people we passed. They wore nothing but dirty pieces of material. A little boy came to the car and asked for some money. I closed my eyes and wondered if I am going to make it through this trip. It took me only 3 days to call my trip to Ethiopia the best trip of my life. Addis Ababa (or Addis) is a city with a unique international sprit. The capital of the African Union, Addis offers visitors a cosmopolitan atmosphere and a feeling of unity among people with different economical status, religious beliefs and cultures. Attending one of the religious ceremonies can be a highlight of your trip. One of the most amazing experiences was to wake up to the sound of Christian mass, performed by a street singer, which undoubtedly was taken from some Muslim song. Ethiopia is mentioned 33 times in the bible and was the first African country that accepted Christianity (orthodox). The Ethiopian calendar is 7 years and 7 month behind ours (it is the year 2000 now) because, according to believe, that is how long it took the news of Jesus birth to reach Ethiopia . Muslims live peacefully next door to Christians and Catholicism is gaining popularity. I visited a Catholic school outside Mekki and it amazed me that some kids will walk 7 km to go to such a good school. It cost $150 per year to sponsor one more child to go to school in Mekki and Adoption ARK is accepting donations to help sponsor tuition and purchase school supplies. There are many choices for accommodations in Addis. I really enjoyed my stay in Hilton. Although rooms were not up to 4 star standards, the Hilton has a beautiful pool, tennis court, and playground for kids and several great restaurants that made my stay very comfortable. If you prefer, private homes can also be rented. I also recommend attending a coffee ceremony and I can promises that any coffee lover will be impressed with the quality of coffee in Addis. Not that many people know that coffee originated in Ethiopia in a province Kaffa sometime in 3rd century. The Ethiopian name for coffee is actually Buna and there is a special way of grinding coffee, making it and drinking it. Food is another cultural experience worth mentioning. If you are picky eater you may want to eat a European variation of Ethiopian food served at the hotel. However, if you are adventurous, you can get a beautiful meal for just $4 in one of the well maintained, Ethiopian restaurants. The traditional way of eating food is with your hands and for a moment you can forget everything your mother told you about licking your fingers at the table. I hope you are intrigued with Ethiopia and will consider this country if planning to adopt. In the past few years adoptions from Ethiopia have tripled. However, the country is still in need of adoptive families for the many, many orphaned children. Since returning to the United States, the sad and beautiful faces of the children I met have haunted me. There are many children in Ethiopia who are taken to orphanages because one or both parents have died or because their parents are unable to support them. All children are tested for diseases in an internationally accredited lab prior to referral and families will get detailed blood tests results along with regular medical information during the course of their adoption. There are many advantages to adopting from Ethiopia: The Travel. One short trip, of about 7 days, is required to adopt from Ethiopia. The adoption process is finalized before parent’s arrival and leaves little room for beurocratic delays. Only one parent is required to travel, however we highly recommend for both parents travel to see the country of your child birth. The kids are available at birth but US consulate allows for 2 month search and document preparation before the child can be offered for adoption. Children are available from government and private orphanages. Although some government orphanages may lack provisions (some kids did not have blankets, others did not have shoes) the kids are being loved and well cared for. The paperwork for Ethiopia adoption is very easy compare to other programs Adoption fees for Ethiopia and less than those of Eastern Europe This program is the best suited for young families ages 25-45 who wish to adopt an infant as young as possible. An older family will most likely be asked to take an older child. Although you may request a boy or a girl the Ethiopian government believes that ether gender deserves equal opportunity for finding a home. We advise families who apply for this program to be open for ether gender. The girls may be slightly more available due to preference of Ethiopian families toward a boy. Single women may also apply. Please click here to receive more information. Adoption Ark, along with our partner agency, plans to open a private orphanage for approximately 40 children. The average monthly budget for an orphanage is about $2500 per month. That is only about $65 per child each month. This cost includes monthly rate, caretakers (ratio of 1:5 kids), a nurse, daily nutritious meals, clothing, diapers and toys. Please consider making a donation to Adoption ARK to help us in our humanitarian efforts.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

ARK Family Picnic Photos

May 17th, 2008, Saturday, Adoption Ark held a picnic with Ark clients and their adopted children. It was an awesome sunny day. Families gathered in a place called ‘The Barn’ in Willowbrook, IL and had a lot of fun with all provided activities. The activities included: a clown who lead many exciting competitions and games, a DJ and dancing, a petting zoo outside the barn. Later in the day a Russian school with arts and crafts was opened and kids were able to do some art projects. Those who wanted to stay active, were able to jump in a bouncing house. There were also a t-short sale, movies about Arkmission on a huge wall to wall screen, silent auction and more. The barn was beautifully decorated in western style décor and pizza, drinks, ice cream were served. It became a good tradition for Adoption Ark/Ark Mission to organize picnics and each time they are held in different states, different places and each time they are in a way unique and always very, very fun. Kids were able to meet each other and make friends and families were able to talk about their experience to each other and met their caseworkers and Ark personal who helped make their dreams to become adoptive parents come true. We had such a wonderful time at the ARK Family Picnic in Chicago on May 17. Special thanks to all of the ARK parents that came and to Linda Podas for putting everything together. Photos of the picnic can be seen in the slideshow on the right or at http://picasaweb.google.com/kgdrake/ARKFamilyPicnic.

Hague Accreditation

Hello Adoption Ark friends: We are happy to share wonderful news with you. Our agency has received Hague Accreditation, meaning Adoption Ark can work in all Hague accredited countries. Below is a short overview of THE U.S. REGULATIONS OF INTERCOUNTRY ADOPTION. In May, 1993 the Hague Convention took place for accredited or approved adoption programs to attend. The protection and regulations of Intercountry Adoption procedures was discussed, in which the conventions key principles were enabling intercountry adoptions to proceed for the interest and needs of the child and also prevention of trafficking, abduction of children with intercountry adoption. The updated and new policies provide positive improvements in many ways but also negative feelings and demonstrated lack of dealing with some issues that need more attention. There revisions and changes made, some a majority agree with and others that may not seem like a good regulation especially for the children. Some of the positive improvements include the requirement that all adoption services be accredited or at least approved, which should have been a requirement years ago. The way to see if a company is accredited or approved is to only ask them in general if they are accredited but to ask for documentation such as history. One good way of identifying the good adoption agencies is to see if they ever have done previous adoption services through a different name, not only by asking the company but also doing research yourself to ensure their words. Also, they are required to have professional liability insurance; which is beneficial to the adoptive parents Another beneficial requirement of all adoption agencies is the requirement to give previous history of their company, i.e. number of completed adoptions, number of provision adoptions and fall through. At the beginning of the adoption procedure the prospective parents are guaranteed the right to overview a sample adoption contract, detailed explanation of the fees and the statistics of the agency. Once the prospective parents have completed all of their paperwork they can be provided with updated detailed medical information and photographs of their prospective child, they are recommended 2 weeks to decide if they to accept or deny that particular child, and during that time frame the specific child can not be referred to any other adopting parent. At the same time there were positive outcomes, there were regulations that many are hesitant about in the long run, some of those issues include legalizing agencies to pay the prenatal and living expenses to the biological parents overseas, this method could possibly increase the potential of child buying Another change that some feel is the way to find more homes for children in shorter timeframe, but at the same time is unfair to adoptive parents, is to shorten the time frame given to the adopting parents of reviewing a referral and finalizing their decision to accept or deny that particular child. In the past the adopting parent were given 2 weeks to review the detailed referral; medical history, documentation of the child’s personality and interests and photographs. The most disappointing changes are in the international country of the child being adopted from. Some of the fees increased, especially parts that an attorney is mandatory. At the same time there are many of the changes in the long run will be helpful for prospective to find a qualified program that will not lead them in the wrong direction.